Abuse Situation 31- Degrading

My abuser is a supposedly a “motivational speaker” and “sobriety coach.” He is very degrading towards people that make less money than him though. He makes fun of people, including a 12 year old child or people that drink alcohol. Now that he is sober he thinks you’re an idiot, dirt bag, or not doing anything with your life if you drink. He’s supposed to be supporting people going through their journey of recovery, but he doesn’t. He charges his client’s $5000 to be sober, but he uses steroids. That’s false advertising which is illegal! When I told him that he can’t be telling people he’s “clean” he told me that it was ok because most of his clients use steroids too. Also, you’re not a “motivational speaker” if you will only work with wealthy men that are at “your level.” According to him though, he’s going to be the next Tony Robinson or Grant Cardone. He’s going to make a global movement and change people’s lives. He could maybe start with changing his own life or Georges by paying more attention to him instead of putting him in front of a screen or video game as a babysitter. That is just my suggestion.

These were all situations my abuser put me through. Obviously, he put me through more than just these, but these are some of the major ones that stuck out. They are all situations of abuse! I can only give advice from what I have lived through, but some of the best advice I have received came from survivors themselves. It’s not stuff I’m proud of sharing, actually rather embarrassed, but it might be helpful for someone else by knowing that they are not alone. Now that I have explained the timeline of my relationship, how I finally left, and some of the situations I have been through I’m going to explain what it is like dating a narcissist and why I believe he is one.