Abuse Situations 27- Towards Ex-Girlfriend

Something else that is important for me to talk about is everything that happened with his ex-girlfriend. Dick had numerously told me she was a, “dumb fuckin cunt” and other horrible things. He also told me that when she lived with him that she would sleep in his bed and make him and George sleep on the couch. He told me she hated his son and that after all these years she was still in love with him. He said that they once went on a trip to New York and she made him ruin his sobriety and lie about it. She only liked him when he was on steroids and drinking. She wanted him to look good and party because that’s when he was fun. He also told me some other personal things that I will not repeat, but it all seemed a little odd.

Before I left for Las Vegas I ended up reaching out to her and telling her everything he had been telling me and other people in the community. He was literally spreading rumors about her. I didn’t know if the things were true he was saying, but I felt like she had the right to know. She ended up seeing my message while I was in the casino in Las Vegas. I thought she hated me and that she wasn’t going to believe me, so I was ready for her to yell at me. It actually ended up being the complete opposite. She gave me her number and asked if I could call. When I got back from the indoor skydiving I went back to the room and called her. She said that Dick had told her that I hated her and that she needed to block me on social media because I was going to try and start issues with her. I actually didn’t like her when I was dating Dick, but that was only because of all the horrible things Dick was saying about her and convincing me of. We talked about all the rumors he had told me about her and vice versa. She said, “The whole couch thing is ridiculous because I constantly asked him to come to bed and he wouldn’t. I later found out it was because he was shooting up in the middle of the night.” She said. “As for being in love with him still, that’s so far from the truth. I thought he and I were friends and I even asked if I could meet you, but he told me that you didn’t like me.” That was just a way for him to keep us apart, so we didn’t find out the truth. As for the trip to New York, he lied. He went off in the middle of the night and met up with some old drug friends to shoot up. He left her alone that night. Again, nothing that was her fault! She also told me that while him and I were dating he called or texted her and told her that he was going to fly out to California to see her. She told him no, that she didn’t think that was a good idea. Again, another lie on his behalf!

A picture my abuser's niece made me!

She thought that since he was now sober that his behaviors had changed, just like I did! She said, “It’s the same exact cycle he put me through and his new girlfriend deserves to know.” She did tell me that the abuse he did with her didn’t get to the extent it did with me, but he did do a lot of shit to her. Dick is the type of person that will break boundaries until he’s stopped. I let him break through all my boundaries. He told me he one time chocked his by holding her up against his bedroom door. She said that wasn’t true. I think it was a tactic he used to try and scare me, like “if you don’t stop upsetting me I’m going to do this to you.” She said that if he started being an asshole she would put a stop to it. She believes this was all part of his little plan. He wanted to get his ex’s to turn against each other, so that we never found out that the same things happened to all of us and the cycle wasn’t ending or that he twisted all the stories. She said, “He ended up telling me horrible things about his ex-wife, so that I hated her too.” It turns out neither of us hate each other! Every single story he told her and I had a truth, but they were twisted so that they were made into a lie to benefit him. She is actually a super sweet girl and has been very supportive of me on this journey! She is also absolutely nothing like what Dick made her out to be. That is a prime example of judging a book by the cover on my part! I should have went behind his back the first month I started dating him to find out the real truth about her. I’m so glad that I talked to her though to finally find out the truth!

After talking to his ex-girlfriend she actually ended up telling him to leave her name out of his mouth. Exactly what she had the right to do! Dick’s mother ended up calling her trying to stick up for his actions and trying to convince her that I was lying. His ex said, “Karlee gave me specific examples with detail, so I know she’s not lying.” Plus, if I was lying I wouldn’t take the time to write a one million page blog. His mother didn’t even know some of the things going on in his life, like the steroid use! Dick then ended up making a video directed towards me. He sent it to his ex and I think his mother. In the video he is calling me a cunt and a spoiled brat. It also says that I told him my ex had a small penis. First of all, if I was spoiled then I would have had my parents pay for my business, I wouldn’t pay all my own bills, oh, and I wouldn’t have helped him pay his bills for two years! As for talking about my ex’s penis size, I will not discuss that publicly because that is just fucking awkward and rude. I will however say that Dick would constantly make me tell him who had the biggest penis out of my ex’s and himself. He would not let it go until I said something and would make me compare sizes from biggest to smallest. That’s definitely not a comfortable conversation to have with your boyfriend at all. I told his ex this and she said, “Insecure people say some weird shit.” Isn’t that the truth!