DON'T BE A HYPOCRITE

My cousin and I started having a conversation the other day ago about how society as a whole belittles, degrades, or is just very unsupportive of people that come from abuse. My cousin and I started a separate Facebook a

nd Instagram account about abuse after people told us to get over it and move on. Honestly, fuck that. I have healed extremely fast comparatively speaking, which I’m thankful for, but I’d just like to say, I’d like to see anyone overcome unbearable, unimaginable traumas in 4 months or less! I’m going to share what I’ve been through where ever I want and if you don’t like it, unfriend me on social media and in real life because you’re not someone I want in my life anyways! At this point in my life I could give two shits what someone thinks about me or if someone likes me or not. I’m weird, I know it, but I’m also a fighter and my story has made me the person I am today. I’m proud of where I’ve come from and what I’ve been through even with society judging me! If you’ve been through a similar situation share away! The majority of society views narcissistic, sociopathic, or psychopathic abuse as just a “bad break up” when in reality that’s the furthest thing from the truth. Trust me, I’ve been through just a bad break up and these types of relationships are nothing like that. They are traumatizing and extremely unexplainable. Society always wants to say shit like “move on, get over it” or “she/he are just lying” when in reality the only thing that is doing is hindering someone’s healing process and making them second guess everything they just went through. All people heal differently and people coming from a psychopathic relationship have to take the time they need and feel all of their emotions to heal properly. Also, when you accuse an abuse victim of “lying” you are only adding to the trauma of what their abuser did to them for many, many years. That’s a severe form of manipulation called gaslighting. If someone wanted to lie about being abused then they are just beyond mentally ill because that’s not really something to joke about. Plus, would you tell a war victim to get over it or a kidnapped victim? What about a person that has been raped? No, because they also need to take as much time as needed to properly heal from what they experienced. Until you have been in a situation/relationship like this, which I hope you never are, you have absolutely no right telling a victim what to do or giving them your advice. Sorry, you just don’t because you can’t fully understand it until you’ve actually been through it, nor do you want to. When someone leaves a relationship with a cluster b personality disordered person it takes a shit ton of work to become whole again, and trust me you will never be the person you once were. I’m a totally different person than I was 7 months ago. After dating someone with one of these disorders you are psychologically destroyed and you have to take many steps to rebuild yourself from the ground up. Cluster B personality disordered people lack remorse and empathy making them lack the ability to give two shits about what types of things they do or say to people, animals, or anyone/anything in general. A large majority of people who leave cluster B personality disordered relationships end up committing suicide. The trauma, manipulation, and Stockholm syndrome is a lot for someone to handle. A lot of cluster b individuals do go to prison for the things that they do, but a lot do not and they walk around like regular individuals. I have a lot of people that talk to me about their traumas, what they have been through, and how they are struggling to get over their situations. First of all, that’s understandable. If you get out of a relationship with a psychopath and you are around the tell your story, you’re a badass. The majority of this world wouldn’t be able to handle what you just went though and that’s the truth! The other thing I tell people that come to me is that you can’t keep your story or your traumas to yourself. I’ve done it and it only makes things worse. You have to talk about what you went through, you have to get it off your chest. If you don’t it’s only going to continue to haunt you and coming from a situation like this you will need tons of support! If you're coming from a cluster b relationship I’m sure you’ve already held all of your feelings/emotions in out of fear that your abuser was going to attack you again, but you need to talk about things either way. Just make sure to talk about it with someone you feel comfortable with and when you feel it’s the right time. Trust me, you’ll feel much better once you do. So, let all your emotions/feelings out! You don’t have to write a blog like I did, but go to a therapist or a life coach. I’m just weird and I really don’t care who knows my story because it has helped so many already. But anyways, a lot of people that have come to me have said it has taken them a very long time to heal or they are still in the process of healing years later. They have also all said the same thing, they kept it all to themselves for a very long time and all it has done is eat at them and make it very hard to overcome. Coming from a relationship like this you say what you need to, when you need to. You do what you need to, when you want to! Most importantly you take as much time as you need to, to heal from what you went through or are still going through! Let people judge you because they are going to either way! Only you know what’s best for you, so ignore everyone else opinions! I’m not a therapist and I don’t care to be, but I am always willing to help others based on the things I’ve lived through! With that being said, I have one other thing to share. It has been brought to my attention that my ex has made an Instagram story saying “men need to learn how to treat women.” Now, normally when people tell me shit he says I just ignore it because I know he doesn’t have the mental capacity to think logically and his name disgusts me, but this was just hilarious! I can only assume he’s talking about himself when he said this because he’s the biggest piece of shit I have ever met. Personally, I think he might want to practice what he preaches and stop being a hypocrite like he has always been, but we all know that’s not going to happen. Nothing this man says is true and I mean nothing! He has physically assaulted some of his ex girlfriends which I have not only heard from himself, but also from people very close to him. He has held a female up against a wall by her throat! He has sexually assaulted me by pressuring me into having sex with him almost every single day for 3 years straight. If I didn’t comply he screamed at me, guilted me, or treated me like complete garbage. This man left me downtown lake Geneva in the middle of winter where I walked out on dinner because he told me he should have cheated on me! He got out of his car and screamed for me to “get the fuck in the car, we’re going the fuck home” and when I wouldn’t get in the car he proceeded to say “you really are a fucking cunt.” He has called me every single name you can think of including a bitch, a slut, a cunt, a whore, and many other names, multiple times over. He is the most verbally, mentally, and manipulative abusive piece of shit I have ever met. He has cheated on every single one of his girlfriends and brags about it by saying “you’re the only girl I haven’t cheated on,” yet just wait, you’ll find out about it sooner or later! He has told me to go die and also made fun of me for my appearance. He plays more mind games than I can even count. This male cheated on one of his ex’s while on a family vacation and impregnated another women in another country. Yes, this man has another child in a different country that he has nothing to do with even though he claims to be “dad of the year.” He cheated on me on Easter weekend when some woman from Minnesota or Michigan, that he met on the Internet, came and stayed at his house, in his bed, for the weekend! The whole time this woman was at his house he said to his son, “don’t to tell karlee, we are just friends,” and then proceeded to text me the entire time she was at his house telling me that he wishes that he was at my aunt Tish’s house with me for Easter, but he just “had a lot of work to do.” In the past his man even bought a used car from someone I know very well and said “I need to buy a piece of shit car so my wife doesn’t know when I’m off cheating on her.” I have heard this man tell his ex wife to go eat a dick and that he hopes she dies from her cancer. He has called her and I horrible names in the presence of his child. This man has also told me to go gobble on a dick and other crazy ass things. I had to watch everything I said or did or he would flip out and start punching things around me to intimate me, hence the reason he put a gigantic hole in his leased car. At the beginning of February he started stalking me when he showed up at an event that I was working for my business. I didn’t find this out until the end of March. My ex knew I worked these events and drove all the way to the back of the Walworth county fairground where he knew I was working a concert and started harassing a man that was eating from my business. My ex accused this man of trying to date me and asked him if he frequents my hotdog stand. The man replied, “yea, actually I do” and left before it turned into a fight. About a month and a half ago this man drove past my hotdog stand twice in a matter of 15 minutes and reeved the engine on his piece of shit truck. Yes, literally reeved his engine like a 15 year old while I was outside with my mom and aunt. This man claims he’s a millionaire, but let’s be honest, that’s not true either! He bought a used truck with a 24% interest. He rents a house because he’s in too much debt to buy one. He owes my dad thousands of dollars from when he rented a building from him and still has not paid years later. He can send the check to my parents house any day now. He owes the state of Wisconsin almost $500,000! Yes, it’s true and it’s public knowledge. When I dated him he owed back child support that he said he was going to pay as little as possible because “the mother of his child supposedly just spends it on herself and she doesn’t need his money.” I’m sure he doesn’t even pay his other baby momma shit either, but I can’t say for sure because I didn’t even find out about this other child until I left him! He owes other small businesses and banks over a few hundred thousand dollars, but has no intention of paying it back. He doesn’t care if they fail. He borrowed thousands of dollars from me that he paid back, yet I paid for the majority of our vacations. Plus, I’m not the only ex that he borrowed money. The only thing is that the other ex never got paid back! I don’t know about you, but I don’t think any of these things scream “I respect women” or people in general. Oh, and if you want to know how he bought his “fiancé” a ring, he’s “friends” with the owner of the jewelry store and he spends every bit of money he gets in. Fake it until you make it is what he lives by! He didn’t do these things because he was on drugs or alcohol. He did this because he has a personality disorder! I was in the same position as many other women less than a year ago, and I believed all his shitty lies too! Once a cheater, always a cheater. Once a psychopath, always a psychopath! My ex doesn’t only disrespect and abuse women, but he also disrespects and abuses animals and anyone else that gets close enough to him. Last summer he left his dog outside all day without water and came home to him lethargic and dying. That was somehow my fault too because I asked him if he wanted to go for lunch. Don’t ask me how it was my fault because I don’t know how it is. My dog lived to be 18.5 without ever coming close to death. As you can see from the paragraph above he also doesn’t respect other people or business owners. He wants to pretend that he has integrity, perseverance, and treats women like queens, but in reality the only thing he has is debt and a cluster b personality. I could have ruined his life a long time ago, but that’s not my intention. I have tons of screenshots of him cheating on me and I’m sure I could go and get text messages of him calling me horrible names and manipulating me, but I have chosen not to share those things. A lot of things I have also kept to myself and will continue to. However, he can make up all the lies he wants to about him and myself because I know the truth, but I’m done with his hypocritical bullshit. I will call him or anyone else out if I hear pathetic shit like “men need to learn how to treat women,” but you are abuse towards other people. Like I said before, a large sum of people that come out of narcissistic abusive relationships end up committing suicide and I’m sick of people continuing to walk around playing games, abusing, and manipulating innocent people for his own entertainment and wellbeing. It’s disgusting and I will stand up against it! If you support this person or other people with cluster b personality disorders, you are just as bad as they are! Check yourself into a mental facility because no one deserves to be hurt the way these people hurt others!