Narcissistic Traits 36- Lack of Empathy

My abuser also lacked empathy. If I cried or was extremely upset, it didn’t faze him at all. He still slept like a baby at night knowing I was at home crying. He also was too concerned about himself to worry about anyone else. When his son was crying that his uncle’s dog was dying my abuser called me and said, “George is crying because the dog is dying, but I don’t know what to do.” I ended up going over there and holding George to try and make him feel better while he went about his night cleaning the house and working. He called another time and actually said his son’s hamster died. I started laughing, not because the hamster died that was sad for his son, but because my abuser was trying to pretend that he actually cared about the hamster, yet a year earlier he didn’t give a shit about a dying dog. I didn’t mean to laugh, but I was so discussed at his fakeness. Another prime example of not having any empathy, is hoping your ex-wife dies from her terminal cancer. Not only is that hurtful to your ex-wife who birthed your child, but also to the child themselves.

His son will constantly cry because his dad doesn’t spend quality time with him, but rather places him in front of a video game as a babysitter. My abuser never got off his phone, making the time he spent with his child very meaningless. If he had empathy he would realize it hurts his son’s feelings by not spending time with him. Instead he just makes up an excuse and says, “Oh, he’s just tired.” Yea, or maybe you’re just an asshole, who knows!