Narcissistic Traits 38- Need for Admiration

A strong need for admiration is another very important aspect of my abusers life. He needs everyone to praise him which is why he constantly posts stupid Facebook videos that are just him bitching or him copying something someone else said. He needs to be the center of attention and if he isn’t he is not happy. Every month of sobriety had to be recognized by myself or else I “didn’t care” or “didn’t love him.” I remember saying to him, “What about me. What day is mine to celebrate since I’ve been sober for 25 years” (at that time.) He said my birthday although we didn’t recognize any of my birthdays, the anniversary of Lefty’s, Valentine’s Day, or our anniversary. If he did acknowledge them it was just a fight because all attention wasn’t on him. My abuser would watch his social media at all hours of the day to make sure he was getting enough “likes.” If he didn’t he’d get upset and say his business was “failing.” I also had to continually tell him how great he was at things, and once I stopped our relationship got shittier. If business wasn’t doing well, meaning if he wasn’t getting enough attention or money than all hell would break loose and he’d turn into a huge asshole. Narcissists need people to think they are a “God” that’s how they feel good about themselves. That’s why he is always starved for attention and doesn’t care who he hurts to get it.