What I Learned and Realized 58- Blessing in Disguise

The MOST important thing I realized from everything was how beyond blessed I am for his new “supply.” His plan was to get a new girlfriend immediately, so that I looked like I was the one to cause the problems in our relationship. This is a very common tactic with narcissists. Unfortunately, for him it backfired because people were only talking behind his back calling him and idiot and wondering what was wrong with him that he doesn’t morn his long term relationship. For me though, it was a blessing! I don’t agree with her cheating with a man that she knew had a girlfriend, but I still don’t want her to get hurt. She’s been through a lot and narcissists prey on hurting people! The girl lost her fucking brother for god sakes, who preys on someone who lost their fucking brother, a lunatic, that’s who!

Getting a little side tracked for a moment.I’m going to explain a little bit more of the background story. The new girl knew he was with me because I messaged her asking her if my boyfriend was talking to her. I saved all my messages. He’s extremely manipulative though, so I could see how he could convince her differently. Actually, I can guarantee the story went something like this. He told her that I was crazy and a cunt. I’m sure he told her that I was going to message her asking if he was talking to her, saying that I was just nuts and hated his son. Although, I know he forget to mention that he has cheated multiple times, so I have trust issues with him and that he was still technically with me. I’m sure he also forgets to mention how manipulative he is over his child towards his ex-wife and that I didn’t agree with it, so I said I had to stay away from him. I’m sure he told her the story about the Florida trip, but flipped it all around to make her believe that everything was my fault, and not his. I’m sure he also forgot to mention how he begged for me to come back for weeks after the Florida incident and that he was so sorry. Now I can guarantee he’s telling her that I outed him on Facebook because I’m jealous and wanted to be with him. He knew he was losing his control over me, so he knew he had to find a new source of supply and fast. He even told his ex, “Karlee and I are going to fix things when she gets back from Belize.” Two days later he said, “My son is at Sammie’s house (the new girl).” Little odd since he was with me! Typical Dick, and bitch please! Get over yourself Dick; no one is obsessed with you like you believe they are!

Now back to the part as to why I’m so thankful for her. My counselor believes his abuse is getting progressively worse, so I do feel bad for her. I don’t know all the details of everyone he’s abused, but I don’t wish it on anyone, even her. I’m thankful for her though because I wanted to leave him, but I didn’t know how. I knew he was sucking me back into his sick little cycle and I wasn’t strong enough to break from it. At that point, I was obviously sad that he was cheating on me again, but I was beyond glad that he was because it was my way out. I actually haven’t talked to him since and I can honestly say I NEVER want to speak to him again. I think he’s disgusting and a sorry excuse of a human being and “motivational speaker.” I am beyond blessed and as weird as it might sound, Thank you Sammie for getting me out of that situation! You were the answer to my prayers!