61-What's to Come with Him

I think there is a lot to come in the next few months. I am going to grow and heal and my ex is going to keep abusing people and pretending he’s someone he’s not. I believe we are products of our environment, but we can always work on becoming better people, something he doesn’t think he needs to do.

As for my ex, he’s going to keep doing the same shit he has always done. Tomorrow is Christmas and I’m sure he’s going to buy his new “supply” or child some extravagant gift to make people believe he's something he's not. My guess is a vacation to Thailand or Africa because that’s where I want to travel. A trip to Costa Rica to go surfing because he wants to copy that book or a trip to Disney or Universal Studios to impress the kids. Most likely in California though, so he can go back to his old stomping grounds. Maybe he will buy her a car or an engagement ring. The point is this is what he’s going to do because he has to try to convince everyone he’s great again since I outed him on social media. It’s just who he is. Am I jealous? Absolutely not! I prefer to not go in to debt to go on vacation just to try and convince people I’m something I’m not.

His family is going to try and stick up for him because they know how weak he is and they will try and convince everyone I’m lying. They don’t want him to relapse, so they are going to do everything in their power to defend him and his abusive ways. I understand they are his family and they want to protect him, but if you defend an abusive person you are also toxic. Maybe instead they could try and convince him to get some sort of help or at least get people away from him so he doesn’t abuse anyone else. Narcissism cannot be cured, but I’m sure he could take steps to better himself. Narcissists only surround themselves with two types of people, enablers and tongue biters. If you aren’t going to enable their shitty behavior or keep your mouth shut about what they are doing then they are going to kick you to the curb and talk shit about you. As family members, just think about the amount of damage he is doing to people’s lives. You wouldn’t be happy if it was you child being abused.

He will continue to go to church to try and make people believe he is a godly man that is changing his ways. He’s not a godly man and he never will be because if he was he’d man up for all the abuse he’s done and he’d change his behavior. That’s not possible for him though. This is just a tactic he uses to try and make people believe her a great person. It’s something to hide behind.

He will continue to search for people’s attention on social media to feed his ego. He will continue to be a fraud and scam people as a “motivational speak” and “clean and sober coach.” Although, you’re not a very good “sober coach” when you tell people about you’re clients infidelity issues, drugs and alcohol issues, or porn addictions. That stuff is private information that those people trust you with it. You have no right talking on speaker phone with those people about their issues, just an fyi! This is the reason my counselor owes

me a lot of money! Also, you’re a really shitty business man if you owe other companies hundreds of thousands of dollars with no intention of paying them back, my dad being one of them! You have no money and you make stupid business decisions, so stopping pretending you’re something you’re not! Unfortunately, he will continue to portray himself as someone with high morals and values, but if you just get close enough to him and you will find out that’s the furthest thing from the truth. Don’t fake it till you make it, just be true to yourself/others and the right life will come to you.

Eventually, he will start abusing his new “supply.” He will cheat on her because he loves attention from anyone. Every holiday or special occasion will soon be destroyed because the attention is not on him. The manipulation has already started, but soon the name calling and other forms of abuse will begin. Sweetie, if he's going to cheat with you, he's going to cheat on you! You are not an exception! Everything she is going through I have already been through.

I know I’m going to hear “He’s a great dad. He does everything for his son,” or he's is going to try and have his son make videos talking about how great Dick is as a dad. That’s just another bullshit lie. Buying your child whatever he wants or putting him in special sport practices to belittle his mother does not make you a good father. Dick puts his child into extra activities as a babysitter. Also, if he was a great father, like I know I’m going to hear, then he would spend quality time with his son and not just sit on his phone when he has him. I will be the first to tell you that his son loves him more than anything in the world, but he's also manipulated I've seen it first hand. The older he gets he will realize who Dick really is. He would also not use forms of manipulation over him or show abuse in front of him if he was a great dad. Just being honest!

He is going to try and make up to every person in this blog that he has talked shit about. He is going to try and convince them that it was a lie or twist the story around. I’m sorry, I wish I was lying, but I’m not. He’s not sorry for what he has said or done, so don’t be fooled. He’s sorry that he got caught and someone was strong enough to call him out on the abuse. He made his bed now he can lie in it.

Dick will call me “crazy” and try to convince everyone that I am, but hey at least I’m not crazy enough to punch a dog or want to kill people! If I’m crazy because I’m not afraid of telling the truth, then so be it! If I’m a “psycho” because I shared true situations he put me through then oh well, I’m a lunatic!

He will probably try to describe me as the narcissist, but fortunately that’s not true for me. That’s just the world of projection for a narcissist. I have NEVER abused him or his child and I never ever would. I admitted to abusing Arthur and that’s something I work on and regret. I never once hit Dick or his son and I never called him anything other than things like a “fucking asshole” or a “piece of shit.” For good reasons too! All good people have a breaking point, but I’m expecting him to try and pull this card!

His new “supply” is going to try and defend him and tell people that the abuse isn’t happening, and maybe at this time it’s not full blown, but just wait. The “love bombing” stage is a form of abuse. I was with Dick for 2.5 years and had no idea how badly I was abused. The manipulation has definitely already started, but I’m sure she doesn’t even realize it. He’s a master at that. Compulsive lying is also a form of abuse and nothing that comes out of that man’s mouth is true. Its super confusing, like I said before; I still do not comprehend a lot of it. It’s just a matter of time before she figures out the truth because at some point his mask will drop and the truth will be told.

At some point Dick might try and come back to apologize to me, but I am not accepting of anything he has to say to me because it is not sincere. He is a full blown narcissistic monster. He literally has even manipulated a mental health professional to believe his bullshit lies. A narcissist will never understand the damage they have done. They will never have empathy and he will NEVER EVER be sincerely sorry for what he has done to me or anyone else. The only reason he will try and apologize is to try and make people believe he has changed. He may try to get me to be his friend again to be like, “Hey, look she forgave me. What I did wasn’t that bad.” Yea, fuck that! That would only be an attempt to try and control me and shut me up. I’m no longer interested in an apology from him! If I was to ever go back to him I can honestly say I would probably end up killing myself as he is extremely abusive, which is one reason I never wish to talk to him again.

I’m sure he will try his hardest to ruin my reputation and my business. He will make up lies about me and my business because he’s jealous of other people that are successful or trying to become successful. I can guarantee he will say something to the fact that I can just get away with whatever I want because I’m a “Mann.” Trust me; I’m human just like everyone else and my last name doesn't make me better than anyone else. Like Al tells me, “We all put our pants on one leg at a time.” Just remember all narcissists are compulsive liars. Honestly, my entire relationship was a lie, so I won’t be surprised when he starts making up more lies about me or his ex's.

The situations could go in many different ways, but narcissists make a conscious effort to make up with their ex to keep control over them and keep them quiet, like I said before. If I see him he will probably do one of three things. He will scream at me and tell me to shut my fucking mouth because he doesn’t want the truth out, just like he tried to make his counselor do with me. He will pretend to make up for what he has done to me to look like a good guy or he will just ignore me and give me dirty looks because he knows I have an endless amount of shit on him and I have no problem sharing it.

It would be no surprise if he either wrote a book trying to twist every story around or posted on social media to try and stand up for the shit he did or lied about. He has already attempted to make me look bad and ruin my reputation, just like he did with his ex-girlfriend and ex-wife. Sadly for him, he doesn’t have shit on me. He’s going to try and drag me through the garden just like I drag my hotdogs through the garden. Bring it on, mother fucker! I am very open and honest and I will continue to be.

These problems are no longer my issues as I have washed my hands of him. These things are on him to fix and God knows what he has done. Don't feel bad for him as these are choice's he INTENTIONALLY makes. He did this with the last women he was with and he's going to continue to do it to anyone else that comes into his life. He will not change and he is not sorry, so don't be fooled for his "poor me" act! That's how he wants you to feel and act towards him. Been there, done that! I'm teaching you from experience, so you don't go through what the other girls and I have been through! This shit is for him to own and no one else! I am FREE of him!